Recovery in the Lifestyle : RitL is a fellowship of BDSM lifestyle people and guests who are in recovery or would like to be. It is based on the 12 steps of recovery and recognizes that anonymity is most important for us all.

Finding Local Support

As of Winter 2012, we currently have regular RitL meetings in 9 areas of the US, and 1 in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada. A group in New York city is working to find a home and seeks to become another area with RitL. If you are in or plan to visit those areas, please check our meetings page to find more information about the times and locations of those meetings.

If you are not in those areas, you may still be able to attend an RitL meeting, as we regularly bring meetings to conferences and events. Again, please consult our meetings page for information. If you are attending (or hosting) a lifestyle conference or event, and would like to have a RitL meeting there, please contact us and let us know the details.

Because our fellowship is so young, it can often be difficult to find other people in the lifestyle who are in recovery. Those of us fortunate enough to attend RitL meetings have found that the freedom and value of having a support group which fully understands our life choices has been an enormous benefit. As such, we strive to help other people who seek what we have found, to connect with each other.

We are currently keeping a confidential list of people who inquire about RitL, but do not have a meeting in their area yet. If you wish to be added to this list, or put into contact with someone on this list for mutual support and/or to discuss possibly starting a group, please e-mail us so we can act as a go-between and help you to get in contact with each other. We also keep an informal group at FetLife to help with news announcements relevant to our fellowship, and some general discussions about issues specific to recovery in the BDSM lifestyle.

Lastly, we wish to encourage you to consider beginning a meeting in your area. We have put information on this web site to assist you with starting up a meeting - please visit the starting a meeting information page. Lastly, all of our literature is available on this web site for download in .pdf format from our Document Center. This includes our 12 steps & 12 traditions, sample meeting formats, and our preamble.

For any further assistance, or to make any suggestions about how we can help - please do not hesitate to contact us.


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